Dating man with child
He was unsure if I could I help him with his ‘responsibilities.’ I was scared to lose him so I would deliberately discuss wanting children and pretend I didn’t really care about the trajectory of my career.I was prepared to focus on our lives rather than focus on where I wanted to go with my life.It was the relationship he had with the mother of his child.I felt as though she was controlling and it felt like she always wanted to know what he was doing. I didn’t like how she’d be messaging him to initiate day to day conversations. Another strange thing was that he was living in a flat owned by her father.I only found out my ex had a child a few days after we met.I was initially a little shocked but came around to the idea after remembering how much I liked him.The differences of what we wanted in life were becoming apparent.My ex, although he was only 26, had been engaged twice and craved the security of a relationship where everything was pretty much planned out – live together, get married then children.
I met his son only a few months into our relationship.
To be honest, I wasn’t content with being someone’s third fiancé either.
I would miss him very much but continuing the relationship didn’t just mean I would have settled down, but settling.
Instead of feeling content I was making progress in an industry I was interested in, I was frustrated I wasn’t more successful as I wasn’t going to be able to fulfil all my other ambitions.
I was pretending to accept Vietnam wouldn’t happen and that I was going to settle down.